Okay okay, so we are sorta new in this neighborhood (same ward new neighborhood) And this section has more kids (hooray!) BUT the boys Dyson's age are wieners! OH yeah I said it. Because I'm sure people from my ward read this, I wont name names... but PLEASE suggest what I should do!
1st incident: Dyson and a neighborhood boy (we will call Frank) walked over to the nearby tennis courts (tennis rackets in hand) and another neighborhood boy (we will call Henry) was over there playing already...said " Frank you can stay but not you Dyson" So Dyson being the sensitive child that he is came home upset and crying that he didn't have any one to play with because Henry told him to go away. So I went over to the courts and asked Henry if there was a problem and he said "oh I was just messing with him" and I said "DON'T DO THAT AGAIN" and I thought I said it in a tone that he knew I was serious and to JUST BE NICE! IS that hard?
2Nd incident: Dyson was riding his bike and a friend of his jumped on the back for a pump, he couldn't steer very good and asked him to get off, then Henry came and starting throwing rocks at the two boys hitting Dyson's friend in the leg and making him cry, so Dyson was going to ride home well Henry decided to jump on Dyson's bike and grab at his shirt (leaving quite the red mark on his neck) Dyson came home again stating how much he hated Henry. And crying. I was working so Lynn went down and had words with Henry. He said Henry was really scared of him and probably wouldn't bother Dyson anymore.
3rd incident: Tonight I am sitting in my room with the window open, I hear two voices outside and look out to see, I see Henry on his bike a a neighbor boy whom I thought had always been nice and friends with Dyson (we will call him Milton) coming up the driveway, I think oh I hope they are here to play with Dyson.. NOPE! They rang the door bell and ran! I yelled out the window "hey guys what ya doing" and they kept running!
I remember ringing door bells and running as a child, so that's not the big deal.. the big deal is if they are doing it to bug Dyson! I want to wrangle their little necks!
What should I do? Does talking to the parents make it worse? I don't want Dyson to get it at school or at church (I think this is why he REALLY hates going to church) I don't want to be the "Melanie Turner" as Rick would call it... but what do I do?
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Hey pee wee! Talking to parents will make it worse. There's nothing you can do, dyson's got to fight his own battles!! But doesn't make it right, mid blog i wanted to take a flight and beat some 10 year old ass!! (that being your neighbors) Love you
I'm with Rick on the beating ten year olds asses!! You mess with Dyson you mess with me and trust me...you don't want that. Tell Henry to come over here if he dares!!! EWWWWWWWWWWWW I'm pissed right now and it's time for bed and I can't do anything about it. I'll call you in the morning. P.S. Dyson is the sweetest kid in the world and Hank idolizes him so just tell him that.
Tell Colby to punch "Henry" in his bitch ass face! That'll show 'em.
My advice still stands. Handle it the way you would want it handled if it was your kid that was Frank. Take Dyson, go over and talk to Frankie and his mom. Say something like "a friend of Frank's (Henry) seems to have issues with Dyson. Do you know why? Is there something that has happened? See what the outcome is. If that doesn't work, call and the whole fam damnly will be over there at Henry's riping him apart!!! Don't Mess with DYSON!! He's a sweetheart.
In talking with Sue, some kind of child specialist... she suggested that if the bullying is occurring at school, that you talk to his teacher about it. They can usually pull the kids in and have them talk about their issues. And it allows them to be aware of the problem. Even if it isn't happening at school, the teacher could still bring them in and have them talk. In addition you could give him some skills to deal with the problem. Have him practice some things that he could say to them. He could stand in front of the mirror and practice a few witty phrases that he could say. Make sure he watches his posture, kids feed off of kids who come across as being weak or lacking confidence. If he stands up to the kids they will probably leave him alone and will find some one else to prey upon. You could have Lynn teach him some fight moves to help him increase his self confidence. Even if he does have to fight the kid, it would probably solve the problem and the kid would move on to someone else. It breaks my heart that those kids are being mean such a tender little kid.
I did not know you moved.
kids are mean. I don't know what I would do either...maybe invite some kids that are nice to your house and have a some WAY cool things planed for them to do, try inviting some of crap heads friends over too but not crap head himself, then the word might get back to him about how funn it was and then maybe he will try to be nice??? as you can see I'm not very good at this. Good thing Ethan's only 4 because I would have went "EDNA" on that crap head child.
We have had similar situations, and I find the best way is to talk to Dyson and use it as a teaching experience. Talk to him about how it makes him feel and teach him that that's why it's not nice to be a bully. Also, I would have Dyson write a note to Henry and Frank (or milton or whoever) and tell them that he likes being their friend when they are being nice. I know it sounds lame and the funner thing to do would be smack the mean kids upside the head, but I promise that it works. If they are still mean than you do the cold shoulder. COMPLETELY IGNORE EVERY ACTION THE MEAN KIDS DO. Trust me that talking to biased parents makes it worse.
Good Luck, it sounds like you are a good MOM!
Sorry I am still working on eli not putting everything in his mouth.....But the kid sounds like a shit.. seriously. Usually its an insecurity issue, probably his parents fault, like they aren't around enough or something, and they probably know it so I agree talking to them would put them on the defense and make the kid even more hostile is what I would guess. Who knows. You will do the right thing though
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